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Kick off the Summer at the Wake Robin Tag Sale!

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Wake Robin President & CEO, Meagan Buckley at the Tag Sale with Resident volunteers.

 

Saturday, June 7, 9:00 AM. You will want to put that on your calendar, so you don’t miss the next Wake Robin Tag Sale. This popular activity has happened every year since 1995 with only a two-year hiatus due to the pandemic. It’s the biggest event run by the Wake Robin Residents Association, and it feeds the activity budget for the year.

The Tag Sale is planned out over a whole year with seven collection dates to amass the treasures. This is Reduce, Reuse, Recycle to the nth degree. Over 40 volunteers take part in sorting the merchandise, and there are teams of Gleaners and Wranglers to select and move the items. There are 17 leadership positions, team leaders, and even designated cookie-bakers! It’s a well-oiled machine that spreads out over the one third acre site, the Hornbeam garage.

All Hornbeam residents know that they will have to park elsewhere for about a week in preparation for the sale. The floor gets power-washed, and all the merchandise is laid out in 19 departments…furniture, gardening, books, lamps, art, kitchenware, and much more.

On that Saturday morning, shoppers will begin lining up before 7:00 for the 9:00 start. It only runs until 3:00 so get ready for some competitive shopping! We had roughly 1,250 customers last year, and the lucky ones are offered a fresh-baked cookie while in the checkout line. Over half of the items will be sold and the remainder will be given to local charities. It’s a clean finish to a huge undertaking.

A special treat this year for the stars of our Tag Sale (all the residents) will be the screening of a documentary shot at last year’s event. The title? Tag Sale!

5 Creative Ways Retirees Are Making Money From Their Hobbies

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By Lucy Lazarony | Investopedia | Published March 13, 2025 | Article Link

Retirees are finding savvy ways to make money from the hobbies they love.

“Turning that hobby or creative venture into something exciting and meaningful financially has so many benefits, from shoring up retirement savings to increasing quality of life to staving off dementia,” says Patrick McAndrew, founder of American Wealth Planner.

Key Takeaways

  • Retirees can turn their hobbies into money-making ventures.
  • Starting a blog about your hobby and selling items you no longer use are two ways to make cash.
  • Don’t be shy about promoting and selling your artwork if you’re an artist.
  • Rent out what you no longer use such as a recreational vehicle, swimming pool, or yard.
  • Sell your photography or the produce from your garden.

Getting Profitable With Puzzles

Missy Walker of Winter Garden, Florida is passionate about puzzles. “I love jigsaw puzzles. I solve puzzles at home. I play in puzzle competitions. And I’ve always loved puzzling fast,” Walker says. “As a retired educator, it’s a great stress relief for me and I love the challenge.”

Walker started a blog and began selling used puzzles on Facebook Marketplace to make some money from her hobby. “I started my blog, Speed Puzzling Tips. Just hit the first anniversary last week and we have over 4K viewers a month,” Walker says. “I write all the content myself and I keep it real because I play jigsaw puzzles.”

Selling Artwork

Jan Lawson, 83, began creating art at age 60. She works in acrylics, creating both paintings and collages. She shows and sells her art in coffeehouses, community centers, and art galleries. Lawson has an apartment at Wake Robin, a retirement community in Shelburne, Vermont, and she also hangs a piece of art outside her front door. “It’s kind of fun to keep changing it,” Lawson says.

People notice the art and want to buy it. “Sometimes I sell it to them. Sometimes I give it to them,” Lawson says. “That’s fun to do.”

Renting Out RVs, Pools, and Yards

Retirees are finding ways to make money off vehicles and other items they’re not using. They rent out for cash what they once used for their hobbies.

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Retirees are renting out their RVs on Outdoorsy.com, their pools on Swimply, and their yards on Sniffspot, according to McAndrew.

 

“Myrna and Bill Landers lived on their acreage for over 25 years before deciding to list their pastures as off-leash dog parks on Sniffspot. Not only have they earned meaningful income but they also say that sharing their land and their art with people and pups alike is a joy,” McAndrew says.

Selling Photography

If you’re a retiree who enjoys taking photos, the next step is selling them.

“If you like to take photos, why not turn them into cash by selling them as stock photos?” asks Mark Slack, finance expert at SideHustles.com. “Shutterstock, Adobe Stock, and Alamy will take the photos and license them to people, paying you each time they’re downloaded. The most popular categories, including business, travel, and lifestyle photography, tend to sell really well.”

Selling Homegrown Produce

Did you get into gardening when you retired? Your garden’s bounty can be sold for cash.

“If gardening is a passion of yours, you can definitely earn some money doing it! Selling your home-grown herbs, vegetables, or stylish plants in pots at farmer’s markets or in a small community-supported agriculture (CSA) environment is a great way to spread the love and earn some cash,” Slack says. “If you specialize in growing plants that are hard to get your hands on or organic produce, you can really find your own niche.”

Don’t Be Afraid to Get Started

Consider these tips from Joe Camberato, founder of National Business Capital, if you’re retired and searching for a hobby that you can transform into a money-making small business.

“If you love being out on the water, get your captain’s license and start taking people out for boat tours,” Camberato says. “If you’re into cars, buy and flip them for a profit. Plenty of people are looking for a good deal but don’t know how to find one. Use your knowledge to make money.”

Camberato has more tips for people who love to cook, people who love to drive, and those who speak foreign languages. “If you’re passionate about cooking, offer private chef services for small events or start selling your best baked goods locally. If you like driving, sign up for Uber or Lyft. It’s flexible and you’re getting paid to do something you already enjoy. If you know another language, teach classes over Zoom. People are always looking to learn.”

Take that first step and begin monetizing your favorite hobby. “The opportunities are endless. You don’t have to turn your hobby into a full-time business but almost anything you enjoy can be monetized in some way,” Camberato says. “You just have to take action.”

The Bottom Line

Retirees are taking steps to turn the hobbies they enjoy into money-making endeavors. They can bring in income from the hobbies they love whether it is selling art, blogging about puzzles, or renting out their yards. Selling photos or selling produce from a garden are other ways to make cash in retirement.

What hobby do you enjoy that you would like to monetize? Take the first steps and begin. You’ll have cash coming your way before you know it.

Shimmy away from chronic disease with the best online dance class subscription

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By Rachel MacPherson | Yahoo | March 5, 2025 | Article Link

Shake, twist or even twerk your way to better health, no studio or dancehall required.

Dance has been a part of cultures around the world throughout history as a form of self-expression, entertainment, socializing and blowing off steam. If you’ve ever worked up a sweat with friends on the dance floor (or alone in your kitchen), you know how fun and stress-relieving it can be. But the benefits don’t stop there. Over the last 70 years, dance has been used as a type of art therapy, with physical and mental health benefits for people of all ages.

More recently, science has shown dancing is an effective way to stay active and fit throughout your life and as you age, boosting strength, endurance and balance and positively affecting mood and mental well-being. Christina Powell, 87, a lifelong dancer, shares that dancing alleviates the stiffness and discomfort she experiences from rheumatoid arthritis, allowing her to move more freely and comfortably in her daily life. “Overall, I feel stronger, more agile, and more connected to my body than I have in years,” she says.

So, if you’re looking to expand your repertoire of ways to keep active or are searching for a motivating and exciting way to start moving more, dancing could be just the ticket.

The health benefits of dance

Boosts physical fitness and overall health

The core of dance is moving your body, so any dancing you do can boost overall physical activity. Staying active throughout life, but especially as you age, helps reduce the likelihood of developing a number of chronic health conditions, including cancer, heart disease, muscle loss, circulatory diseases, strokes and overall frailty.

Dance, in particular, has unique benefits for physical health, making it ideal for people looking to liven up their workout routines or try something less traditional than a run on the treadmill.

A scientific review published in Alternative Therapies in Health and Medicine found that dance of any style significantly improves muscular strength and endurance, balance and general functional fitness in older adults. “Dancing is an incredibly valuable method of exercise. This is a highly aerobic activity that also requires core strength, flexibility and balance,” says Dr. Daniel Hermann, a cardiologist with Memorial Hermann Medical Group. These components of fitness are important for everyone, but maintaining and building these skills is extremely beneficial for older adults, he adds.

Helps relieve chronic pain

Dance can also help those with chronic pain. A scientific review looking at the effects of dance on symptoms of fibromyalgia and generalized chronic pain published in Pain Medicine found that dance helped with pain relief, coping and acceptance. This was particularly true when dance was incorporated into a routine of 60 to 120 minutes of dancing each week.

Helps manage chronic disease

Similarly, a study published in Brain Sciences examining the effects of dance on patients with mild-to-moderate Parkinson’s disease found that over three years, regular dance classes helped slow the progress of the disease, improving motor control, mood, balance and daily functioning.

Lakelyn Eichenberger, a gerontologist and caregiver advocate at Home Instead, explains that dance promotes a “mind-body connection that can help improve mobility, endurance, and one’s mood and quality of life.” She adds that people with chronic pain or Parkinson’s disease can see benefits ranging from improvement in their general disease condition to improved balance and gait, which can make a huge impact on the lives of those experiencing these difficult conditions.

Improves mental well-being and cognitive health

It seems obvious that busting a move can boost your mood, but it’s not just conjecture — science agrees. A meta-analysis published in Behavioral Sciences found that the movement and music associated with dancing help reduce depression symptoms among older adults. “Dancing is often a social event, and we know that interacting with other people is also good for our brains,” says Dr. Sharon Brangman, a geriatrician and trustee on the board of the McKnight Brain Research Foundation and director of the Center of Excellence for Alzheimer’s Disease at SUNY Upstate Medical University.

Jennefer Ho, senior clinical manager at Executive Mental Health in California doubles down on the importance of the social side of dancing, because it can lead to a sense of community and belonging. “Those who have a rich social life later in life usually experience the benefits of longevity as well as better quality of life,” adds Dr. Ho.

Another review found that dance has a positive impact on mood, promoting a more positive body image and self-confidence, ultimately boosting overall well-being, happiness and quality of life. Jena Necrason, the program and events coordinator at Wake Robin, a nonprofit Life Plan Community in Shelburne, Vt., says she sees it at her facility after their dance classes, “When residents come out of the studio after a dance class, they are walking with more ease and confidence, have big smiles on their faces and embody hope and joy.”

And the benefits for your brain don’t stop there. “Exercise, including dance, is linked to cognitive benefits, like increasing blood flow to the brain and helping boost our ability to maintain connections in the brain and make new ones,” says Brangman. This means that dance is an excellent way to keep your brain nourished and sharp. Brangman explains that activities like dance also help lower blood pressure and blood sugar, which are important for healthy aging and preventing cognitive decline.

One last benefit of dance that shouldn’t be overlooked: It can turbo-charge your confidence and motivation to keep active, according to research. Bruce Camp, a Life Time instructor who teaches ARORA dance classes to older adults, which are available on-demand in the Life Time app for free, says dance class participants stay motivated to keep attending because it is so rewarding.

Powell says dancing has deeply inspired her and has been a powerful confidence booster. “It has shown me that I can continue to learn, grow, and achieve new things, regardless of age,” she shares.

 

The Power of Relationships

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Residents work closely with the Shelburne Food Shelf

When people talk to us about why they want to come to Wake Robin, one of the reasons given is that they are looking for a sense of community. Equally important are the facility’s ties to the broader community outside of where they live. As life situations change, many find themselves separated from the life they once led. There can be feelings of isolation.

A recent article in iAdvance Senior Care, an online magazine, featured interviews with three senior care facility CEOs, including Wake Robin’s Meagan Buckley. While there are differences among the facilities, there are common threads for the foundations of success. The bonds between residents, staff, leadership and the community beyond, create a nurturing environment essential for daily operations.

Many residents have previously supported their communities before moving here. “They have always wanted to be engaged and now is a time in their life where they can give more time and wisdom to the greater community – ultimately providing profound meaning,” according to Meagan.

All three executives recognized the value of connecting with the outside world to further build relationships. Meagan gave the Wake Robin Tag Sale as an example of a long-term event (over 30 years!) that provides an opportunity to draw community attendees. Last year’s tag sale brought almost 1,000 shoppers to our campus to interact with our residents and score some great deals!

Outside of our campus, some residents supported the Pierson library campaign, they sit on Shelburne’s finance committee, and volunteer at the food shelf and schools. Some residents even hold the title of Justice of the Peace.

Staying active and staying connected… These community partnerships enrich the lives of everyone involved.

Spreading warmth

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Residents work together to create window inserts to use towards a community project.

What an appropriate time of year to tell you about efforts to conserve heat!

Wake Robin is well known as an environmentally focused community. We are a member of SSAFE (Senior Stewards Acting for the Environment) and there is a resident-run group  called the Climate Change Task Force. Reduce, Re-use, and Recycle are actions we take every day. It’s not surprising that some of our residents got involved with Window Dressers, a non-profit based in the Northeast that has a simple, inexpensive answer to keeping warmth inside the house.

Window Dressers began in Rockland, Maine with an insulation project at the Universalist Church. It worked so well that it quickly spread to other places. These are custom-sized pine frames wrapped in two layers of tightly sealed, clear plastic film and finished with a compressible foam gasket to function as interior storm windows. They fit inside the window frame without the use of fasteners. They are easily installed and removed.

That explains what they are, but how do they get built? This is where the volunteer labor comes in and how Wake Robin residents jumped in with both feet. The Window Dresser model depends on Community Builds to make the inserts in one marathon session to meet all the orders placed. Judy R. heads up the effort at Wake Robin and she went to a Build in Middlebury along with residents Jim W. and Maggie H. to learn how to do it. They set up their own Community Build in the Shelburne Town Hall and another 15 Wake Robin residents joined in for the workday last October. They made nearly 200 inserts!

Neighbors helping neighbors to save energy and reduce heating costs; a simple way of spreading warmth.

A New Survey Reveals the Real Importance of Food When Selecting a Senior Community

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By Paige Cerulli | iAdvance Senior Care | January 24, 2025 | Article Link

A new survey reveals that older adults prioritize food and nutrition, so much so that it may be a driving force in whether they prefer to stay at home rather than move to a senior care community.

The Great Expectations survey by Age of Majority, conducted for Restaura Hospitality Group, surveyed 1,485 adults between age 55 and 96 during August 2024. The survey found that 68% of respondents look for variety in meal options that accommodate their individual tastes and preferences, but just 17% of respondents were very confident that senior living communities could provide the dining choices they expect. While 21% of respondents said they would prioritize a senior living community that offered access to multiple dining venues, an overwhelming 65% of respondents noted that they would prioritize the flexibility to prepare their own meals, dine out, or order takeout.

Notably, 32% of respondents described themselves as being “food explorers” who were very adventurous in trying new tastes and flavors, and just 16% said that medical dietary considerations were important in how they choose what they eat.

Joe Cuticelli, CEO and co-founder of Restaura Hospitality Group, explains that he wasn’t surprised to find that 69% of survey respondents indicated that food quality was very important in their residence choice. “Food in a senior living community is truly at the heart of the resident experience – whether it’s an active aging community, independent or assisted living,” he said.

Cuticelli explains that two important factors are at play. “First, the generation that grew up with TV dinners now understands that the quality, variety, and taste of what they eat can have a direct impact on both their physical and emotional well-being,” he notes. “Second, in making a move from home, the dining experience becomes a highlight rather than a routine part of the day which significantly shapes a resident’s satisfaction and quality of life — often tipping the scales when they’re choosing where they want to live. We see a big opportunity to redefine the status quo to better suit shifting expectations for both food quality and variety.”

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Kate Hays, director of dining services at Wake Robin

Kate Hays, director of dining services at Wake Robin, has found that food and dining services are very important to prospective residents, and that residents often ask about the dining program to make sure it aligns with their dietary preferences and needs, as well as with their ethics. Potential residents may ask if the food is sustainably grown and if it’s local. “It’s not enough anymore that it must taste great, and that enough variety is offered so there’s something for everyone to enjoy. It has to align with their beliefs and ideals,” she says.

The Changing Senior Care Dining Industry

As senior care operators recognize the importance of treating dining as a central feature of the resident experience, Cuticelli has seen notable changes, such as the hiring of professionally trained chefs, the incorporation of locally sourced and seasonal ingredients, and a greater emphasis on health-conscious options that cater to special diets like low-sodium, gluten-free, or heart-healthy meals.

“But here’s the issue,” he explains. “The industry as a whole has not evolved enough to change long-standing negative perceptions. Our survey gave a long list of words, ranging from ‘safe’ and ‘social’ to ‘boring’ and ‘depressing,’ and asked respondents to select any that they associated with senior living. Guess what word choice was selected the absolute least on the list? ‘Restaurant quality food’ at 10.5 percent. That’s not good.”

According to Cuticelli, it’s essential that senior care communities leverage technology to measure resident sentiment, rather than relying on annual or semi-annual satisfaction surveys. Communities must capture and measure feedback in minutes, not weeks, months, or quarters. “We created an AI-powered sentiment analysis tool that provides real-time insights by analyzing comments, ratings, and team member inputs so we can identify opportunities for improvement and respond in real time,” he says.

“Our service teams are armed with digital tablets that include menus tailored for each resident, along with personalized information about their preferences, and satisfaction ratings. The good news is that our research showed a staggering 81% of seniors are interested in providing feedback by taking digital surveys about their dining experiences.”

Hays explains that residents aren’t shy about sharing their thoughts about the dining program, and the dining room structure facilitates a dialogue between residents and staff. “Our Maple Leaf dining room features open kitchen stations, so residents interact directly with the culinary staff,” she says. This not only gives the opportunity for my staff to really get to know the residents and their likes and dislikes, but it sets the stage for culinary staff to really tell the story of the food.”

Additionally, Wake Robin hosts town-hall style meetings with residents to learn about the resident experience, what’s working, and what changes the community should make. A comment box gives residents another option for providing feedback if they would like to remain anonymous. “We’re always listening and tweaking things accordingly,” she says.

The Value of Promoting Quality Dining

Given the increased focus on food in senior care, promoting the dining experience a community offers needs to be a deliberate part of the marketing strategy, both online and offline. “It starts with storytelling that highlights the culinary team’s expertise, including profiles of chefs and their culinary philosophies,” says Cuticelli. He notes that testimonials from current residents discussing the food quality and variety can be compelling. Communities can offer tasting events for local influencers during tours, or host cooking demonstrations by community chefs, which can transform potential resident visits into more immersive experiences. “The dining experience should become the marketing showpiece that makes the community a must-see,” he says.

Food and dining services are a key part of Wake Robin’s marketing strategy. The community’s farm-to-table mission is incorporated into all preliminary conversations, and prospective residents are invited to contact Hays directly with questions about the dining program.

Additionally, prospective residents are invited to dine with current residents while touring, and events are held to introduce prospective residents to each other. “Gourmet dinners and other dining events are shared in newsletters and other information shared with those on our marketing lists, but enjoying our food directly is always the best way to highlight our talents,” explains Hays.

She recommends that senior care communities promote their dining activities through every marketing tool they utilize. Share information if members of the culinary staff are speaking or attending dining or sustainability conferences, and share details if culinary staff are cooking at local competitions.

Wake Robin’s culinary staff presented a dish at a highly respected “Best Bite” competition during the past two years. “Nobody expected a life plan community to present, and all night patrons were loving the food and asking where our restaurant was,” says Hays. “I don’t think local restaurants expected to lose to a life plan community when we won the first year and were runner up last year, but hopefully our abilities will speak to those diners who are looking for a community like Wake Robin.”

Improving a Dining Program

Hays encourages communities looking to improve their dining programs to start by gathering and listening to resident feedback. “Find the best way to implement improvements that work within your budget, then highlight the efforts you’re introducing to the community,” she says. She suggests that communities might prepare a special dinner featuring dishes residents have been suggesting to measure resident response before adding them to the menu. Communities might also consider creating a map of farm partners, allowing them to show residents where items on the menu are grown.

“Resident engagement is crucial,” Hays says. “It’s not worth spending the extra money on food if the residents don’t know you’re going that extra distance to improve the quality of their food.”

Cuticelli notes that Restaura is collaborating with the International Council on Active Aging (ICAA) on a new Culinary/Dining Assessment tool designed to help communities evaluate and elevate their dining program. “All ICAA member community executives receive a comprehensive evaluation from highly trained culinarians and industry leaders,” he explains. The assessment is designed to help identify gaps and suggest potential solutions, supporting senior care communities in improving their dining programs.

Some Thoughts for the Season

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In our recent print version of our newsletter, there was a message from Meagan Buckley, Wake Robin’s president and CEO. It’s a message that bears repeating.

I was deeply moved recently by a resident’s story that beautifully highlighted the impact of a fellow community member who had passed away. It was a powerful reminder of the legacies we each leave behind—legacies that may not always be widely known but are profoundly felt by those who have experienced them.

In that moment, I was struck by the richness of our community’s storytelling and memory archiving. These shared stories allow the essence of individuals to live on, inspiring others and shaping the heart of our community. Every resident and staff member at Wake Robin contributes in meaningful ways, leaving impressions that resonate throughout our lives, sometimes in ways we might not immediately recognize.

Our staff play a crucial role in this as well. The care, dedication, and passion they bring to their work leave lasting impressions on the lives of our residents. Whether through a compassionate gesture, a supportive word, or the consistent effort to make each day a little brighter, our staff create legacies that are just as impactful. Their influence is woven into the daily lives of those they serve, often leaving behind memories and connections that endure long after a task is completed, or a shift ends.

Whether through a kind word, a lasting friendship, or a physical contribution that enhances our environment, each of us has the power to leave a lasting legacy. As we move forward, let’s make it a priority to keep this tradition alive. By sharing our stories, we not only honor those who have touched our lives but also ensure that their influence continues to grow and inspire others. Together, we can nurture a community where each legacy, no matter how small, is cherished and celebrated.

In this holiday season and with the arrival of a new year, I encourage each of you to take time for rest, reflection, and celebration with loved ones. Whether you’re enjoying the company of family or connecting with friends, please take a moment to embrace the joy and warmth that the season brings. I wish you and your loved ones a joyful holiday season, filled with peace, love, and happiness. May the new year bring you health and contentment.

Wake Robin Board Member, Art Wright, Wake Robin President & CEO, Meagan Buckley, Wake Robin Board Member, John Maitland.

Meagan Buckley

Wake Robin President & CEO

I’m Part Of The ‘Sandwich Generation.’ This Is What It’s Really Like.

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Like many other people in midlife, I never anticipated joining the “sandwich generation” — adults in their 40s to 50s with both elderly parents and children that need some kind of physical, financial, legal or medical support at the same time. It’s a whole new ballgame when you live at a distance — whether that be 50, 500 or, like me, 3,500 miles — from some of your family.

An October 2021 survey from the Pew Research Center found that about 23% of U.S. adults are part of the sandwich generation, with at least one parent older than 65 and at least one child under the age of 18 (or providing financial support to an adult child). Most of us in the sandwich generation are between 40 and 59 years old.

This year, I joined that demographic from a distance. I live in England with my children, and my parents are on the East Coast in the United States. I’m fortunate that my parents made the decision in 2020 to sell their home and move into an assisted living retirement community while they were still mentally and physically able, though COVID travel restrictions meant I couldn’t be with them to help pack up and clear out. They became active members of their retirement community, but this summer my father’s health took a turn for the worse, and my daughter’s 25-year-old boyfriend was diagnosed with cancer. For the first time, I understood what sandwich generation really meant, as I wondered how to deal with two different crises at the same time. How do I hold myself together when I want to care for my parents, my 23-year-old daughter, her partner, and my 19-year-old, who is halfway in and out of the nest?

I turned to some experts to get advice on how to navigate this overwhelming life stage (particularly when it comes to helping elderly parents) and learned that there are four areas to focus on: communication, practicalities, asking for help, and self-care. Don’t expect to deal with these all at once — bite-size chunks are best.

Communication

Meagan Buckley, president and CEO of Wake Robin, a nonprofit retirement community in Shelburne, Vermont, estimated that half of the community’s 400 residents have children who live more than an hour away, making care and involvement difficult. To help with this process, Buckley advised having “a conversation that is honest and future thinking,” asking your parent: “What’s important to you as you age? Where can I help, and where do you want control and privacy? How can we talk about each of our worries and hardships?”

All of the experts I spoke with stressed not going in with a “take charge” attitude. Alex Banta, clinical director and therapist at Thriveworks in Columbus, Ohio, recommended beginning hard conversations about an aging parent’s needs with a “soft start and explaining the motivation behind why you want to be included.”

“Let your parent know that this is not because you don’t trust them or feel they aren’t capable. It’s about streamlining and ensuring the best outcomes,” Banta said. She often uses the metaphor of a sports team: Your parent is the head coach, but you’re the assistant coach, double-checking decisions and providing input as needed. Approach conversations by wanting to understand your parent’s wishes and needs and how you can help them meet those. (That is, of course, if they are still mentally competent.) It’s important for your parents to feel they are still in control of their lives.

Practicalities

Having a support system in place and crucial paperwork complete before you need them makes this stage in life much easier. Sarah Milanowski, a geriatric care expert at LifeCircles PACE in Michigan, told HuffPost that it is crucial to make time for discussions before a crisis arises.

“Being a long-distance caregiver feels like solving a puzzle from afar. The key is having proactive conversations and establishing support systems before they’re urgently needed,” Milanowski said. She suggested finding someone who can be your “boots on the ground” — neighbors who can check in or a professional care coordination service — as well as video calls to visually check the parent’s wellbeing.

It’s important to create a caregiving toolkit, Milanowski noted. This should include things like a power of attorney for medical and financial decisions; advanced healthcare directives and “do not resuscitate” preferences; an updated will and any estate planning documents; Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act release forms; current lists of medications and health conditions, along with names and phone numbers for healthcare providers; and funeral arrangement preferences. Any financial concerns should also be addressed. It’s a lot and shouldn’t be approached all at once. Break it down into manageable chunks, create a checklist and practice patience. None of this is easy for anyone.

Self-Care

It’s imperative you look after yourself and your family. Take breaks — even a short walk or a few quiet minutes — enlist support and communicate with siblings and partners about needs, expectations, and what is realistic for you to do. Forward planning will help make that self-care and time for your children and partner easier to find. It’s also important to identify what you have power over in these situations. Banta noted that many of her clients in the sandwich generation feel helpless, so it’s best to address those feelings by identifying what you do have control over, accepting those limits and letting go of the rest.

Banta also suggested setting realistic expectations and being kind to yourself. Sometimes your children will need you more than your parents, and only you can decide who gets the attention. Taking a few minutes for yourself can give you the space to think more clearly and make decisions you can feel comfortable with.

Asking For Help

A recent Carewell study found that 63% of caregivers advised looking for and accepting help by joining an online or in-person support group, asking family and friends to run errands, prepare meals or have a chat, and looking into respite care services that can offer short-term help.

There are countless resources online and available through hospitals and retirement communities. Use them for advice and help. Buckley noted that parents “don’t wish to burden their children with the pressures and ailments of aging. Most residents in our community see the act of moving to our community as their largest gift to their children — to ease worry.”

Wake Robin – a SSAFE Zone

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“We’re Green, we’re Grey, and we’re NOT going away!” That’s the motto for the 15 chapters of Senior Stewards Acting for the Environment…SSAFE. Wake Robin is one of those chapters and last month, we hosted two officers of the national organization.

Michelle Goodwin, CEO, and Joel Brady, Chair of the Board of Directors, were our guests for a couple of days. They came to give a presentation to the residents and spent some time walking around meeting people, sharing meals in our dining room, and exchanging ideas with our own Climate Action Task Force. All are interested in learning from each other how we can best work together to address climate change.

SSAFE started at Kendal at Hanover and has added 14 more communities since 2020. They said the key word in the name of the group is “Acting.” The movement is growing quickly and they are about to embark on creating a five-year strategic plan. On the website is a Resource Hub offering templates, ideas for funding, case stories, videos, recommended reading and viewing, and a newsletter. One chapter at a time, the goal is to achieve carbon neutrality or net-zero emissions by 2050.

Michelle and Joel heard about Wake Robin’s environmental stewardship activities and explored possible collaborative efforts. In their presentation they described some of the work of the various chapters and why they chose to create this organization comprised of retirement communities. They said the members of senior communities are perfect sources for leadership to push the agenda. They have experience, they have resources, and they have time to devote to this work.

They liked what they heard here so much that they have invited resident Sarah M. to give a presentation to the SSAFE General Committee. Sarah’s topic is “The Epic Tale of Reuse and Repurpose at Wake Robin” or what is better known as “The Tag Sale.”

For more information: ssafe.org

Linden Health Center Gets a Gold Star!

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Operating a health center means you must be licensed and that involves a review every year. These surveys are unannounced. You are under review the moment the survey team comes to your door. Wake Robin recently got some very good news from one of our state regulators. This report comes to us from Heather Filonow, Director of Health & Resident Services.

The Vermont Department of Disabilities, Aging, & Independent Living, Survey & Certification Team arrived at the Linden Health Center the morning of Monday, October 7th to begin the annual re-licensure process. The focus of this survey was our skilled and long-term care neighborhoods (Cedar and Juniper). The survey team was on-site for three full days. The highest rating you can get is “no deficiencies” and Heather was proud to tell us “We had a deficiency-free survey!”

The survey looked at medical records of current and discharged residents back to August of 2023. They interviewed numerous residents and family members about the care and services we provide. They reviewed our policies and procedures and asked the staff questions. They observed our daily operations – care, meals, activities, housekeeping, therapy, responses to pendants, our engagement with residents, our infection practices in action and more – and they determined that Wake Robin is in compliance with all of the State and Federal regulations to which we are accountable.

Closing thoughts from Heather: “Excellent quality outcomes in our Health Center are not the result of one person or one department. Excellent quality outcomes are the result of everyone working together and supporting one another with the shared goal of providing high quality and compassionate care, with respect and dignity, to the residents that have entrusted us with their care. The Linden Health Center staff make this happen every hour of every day.”